Being pregnant the first time was wonderful!
Even though I was 31, I was in good shape. Only gained 14 lbs., baby boy was 7 lbs. and the water & placenta was 7 lbs. so I was back to pre-pregnancy weight right after he was born. Don't get jealous though, because the problems came after that.
Wow, what a life-changing shock it was to finally have a baby one month before I turned 32. My husband says I'm romantically idealistic so he just laughs when things don't happen the way I think they should. Baby was back in the hospital after a week in an extremely yellow condition. They had to give him formula because I couldn't produce enough milk. It was a 3 month struggle with bleeding breasts but I was determined to breastfeed my baby.
The breakthrough solution: Lots of very strong marshmallow tea. It increases milk flow.
2nd baby woes: Excessive back & hip pain while pregnant. Gained 25 lbs. 20 months apart, she was 8lbs. 6oz. She sucked so hard it caused extreme uterine cramps. She got plenty of milk although I was crying in pain.
The midwife's solution: Lots of very, very strong chamomile tea. It relaxes the muscles.
3rd baby woes: More extreme back & hip pain while pregnant at 38. I was dilating too early so they put me on bed rest for the last 6 weeks. I got tonsillitis and almost choked to death from an allergic reaction to medicine. Baby stopped moving for 3 days so I decided to take castor oil to induce labor. Labor was only 2 hours and he was 10lbs. 6oz. Ooooouuuuccccchhhhhh! He dropped like a bowling ball and it felt like I was giving birth to a watermelon. Fifth degree tearing (or worse) and I needed surgery. More bed rest for 6 weeks.
The doctor's solution: Don't have any more children.
But I loved being pregnant, I loved giving birth, and I love being a mom! Am I a masochistic? No, hormones make you delusional. That's a good thing, otherwise no one would procreate and we would face extinction.
Also, we wouldn't become the best we can be, because we wouldn't be able to expand our capacity to love as much without becoming parents.
What are your biggest parenting concerns?
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Is your baby not sleeping through the night yet, or are you struggling with potty training? Are your toddler's naughty behaviors driving you crazy? Is your child struggling in school, or do you suspect there's a bully problem? Wondering what to do about teenage backtalk? Not only have I "been there, done that", but I've studied these topics and given workshops on them, I've heard the concerns & struggles of many parents over the years. We are all on the same journey with varying circumstances, and we can help each other.